This morning we head out to the city of Fengcheng where is Mei from. After the orphanage recommendation not to go visit the SWI or meet with the foster mom we decided at least drive into the city of Fengcheng and go tho her finding place. I am glad we did it. It helped me understand and see the China where is Mei from. There were a lots of farms, but not the farm buildings that we know from US. It more looked like bigger townhouses with usually 3 floors. The bottom floor looked like workshop/garage and the top like living quarters. Most of them were growing rice, we also so quite few farms for sweet water pearls. You can see construction just about everywhere and with it a lot of trash.
A lot of fields had little hills/piles with flowers on top, which I learned from our guide is a place where families burry their deceased.
Here are some pictures to show how the country is so different from the city.
Little later our guide got a phone call that Mei's file is not there, some orphanage worker has it and he/she is on vacation. Really? So we were told we can get refund. Which by the way is pretty good chunk of money. We said that we want the file also, so they suppose to email us all the info later. So probably no original pictures like we thought we would get.
So after being told not to meet with foster mom, who has history of not wanting to give the children back, being told not to go inside the orphanage, the argument I saw with the director and the missing file - I am having little weird feeling about this. We just want to learn as much as we can about her for us and for her in future, but it seems like this is just not going the right direction. And I know this is also very typical in China adoption, but it still makes me sad. I just see this WALL between me and some info. Is there something to hide or am I just being not reasonable? I so wish I could have told the foster mom thank you, but it will not happen. We have sent 2 disposable cameras and got them back, so I hope if nothing else we will get some pictures from her foster home. Did I mention we also send other items like picture album, list of questions and others, but those did not make it to us.
On the other hand Mei is doing very well. She took the 3 hours in the car very well.